STEPPARENTING HINTS

Bill O'Hanlon, M.S., PossiBill@aol.com; http://brieftherapy.com


3 approaches to stepparenting that usually don't work

 

You and your ex screwed up these kids and now I'm going to fix them

 

We're an instant family with instant love

 

"Why don't you get your kids to . . .?" or "Do you know what your kids did?"

 

Some hints about what might work

 

Beware the triangle-use one-to-one communication when possible

 

Circle the wagons-draw boundaries around the marital relationship and around the new/blended family

 

Take your parenting disagreements behind closed doors and present a united front with the kids

 

Don't take it personally-Use action language and escalating consequences

 

Build up credits in the relationship bank before you make withdrawals

 

Remember that no one has a lock on "correct" parenting

 

If all else fails, try the roommate or friend models for being a stepparent



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Revised: November 11, 2023 --- Copyright © 1997 Bill O'Hanlon