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Brief Couples Therapy Homework Planner

Gary Schulthies
Bill O’Hanlon
Steffanie O’Hanlon

This volume provides you with dozens of ready-to-use between-session assignments designed to fit virtually every couple’s dilemmas. It contains more than 600 copier ready exercises covering all major presenting problems affecting relationships, as well as a computer disk which contains all the exercises in a Windows-based word processing format that allows you to customize them to suit you and your individual client. A valuable time-saving resource for mental health professionals who work with couples.

How to Use This Book
Assigning Tasks
Section I - Generic Tasks
Introduction to Generic Tasks
Exercise I.1 Chart Your Course
Exercise I.2 Taking Charge of Change
Exercise I.3 Unpack Loaded and Vague Words
Exercise I.4 Doing Love and Intimacy
Exercise I.5 Track the Problems and Solutions
Exercise I.6 Identify and Validate Your Partner’s Feelings and Points of View
Exercise I.7 Changing Character Indictments to Action Descriptions
Exercise I.8 Identify What Has Worked and Do More of That
Exercise I.9 Little Things Mean a Lot
Exercise I.10 Keep One Eye on the Road
Exercise I.11 Time Travel
Exercise I.12 What Is Your Map of Love-Land?
Exercise I.13 Acknowledgment
Exercise I.14 Catch Your Partner Doing Something Right
Exercise I.15 Let Your Partner Know What Behaviors You’d Like
Exercise I.16 Just the Facts, Ma’am
Exercise I.17 Map the Problem
Exercise I.18 Breaking Patterns
Exercise I.19 Don’t Get Even, Get Odd
Exercise I.20 Change the Context
Exercise I.21 Negotiating Impasses
Exercise I.22 Choreograph an Argument
Exercise I.23 Go Ape
Exercise I.24 Letter to the Problem
Exercise I.25 Going Postal Instead of Going Postal
Exercise I.26 Lighten Your Load
Exercise I.27 Can Do!
Exercise I.28 Plant a Tree
Section II - General Issues/Values Conflicts for Couples
Exercise II.1 Value Your Differences
Exercise II.2 Accountability
Exercise II.3 Restoring Trust and Faith When One Partner Has Betrayed the Relationship
Exercise II.4 Inequities
Exercise II.5 Feeling Responsibility: Who Initiates Things That Need to Be Done
Exercise II.6 Intimacy
Exercise II.7 Styles of and Motivation for Arguing
Exercise II.8 Forgiveness
Exercise II.9 Money/Financial Conflicts
Exercise II.10 A Common Destination
Exercise II.11 Negotiating Socializing Preference Differences
Section III - Specific Problem Areas for Couples
Exercise III.1 Chronic or Unproductive Arguments
Exercise III.2 Verbal Abuse
Exercise III.3 Boxing Clutter to a TKO
Exercise III.4 Separating Work from Home Life
Exercise III.5 Planned Spontaneity
Exercise III.6 A Safe Place for the Traumatic Memories
Exercise III.7 Chronic Lateness from Work
Exercise III.8 How to Support a Partner with a Chronic or Serious Illness
Exercise III.9 Set Limits with Consequences
Sexual Issues and Problems
Exercise III.10 Mix ‘N’ Match Sexual Menu for Expanding Your Sex Life
Exercise III.11 Pleasure Teaching Session
Exercise III.12 Dealing with Impotence
Exercise III.13 Help for Premature Ejaculation
Exercise III.14 Initiation Week
Exercise III.15 Lightening Up about Sexuality and Weight Gain
Exercise III.16 A Night to Remember
Family, Stepfamily, and Parenting Problems
Exercise III.17 Wrestling with the Challenging Task of Parenting
Exercise III.18 In-Law Problems
Exercise III.19 Get a Roommate
Exercise III.20 Circle the Wagons
Section IV - Reproducible Forms and Brochures
Guidelines for Couples’ Communication
How to Solve Relationship Problems
Creating or Renewing Intimacy
Pocket Emergency Guidelines
Getting Over an Affair
Dealing with a Partner or Spouse with a Chemical Abuse Problem
Preventing or Dealing with Violence in a Relationship
Solving Sexual Problems
Train Your Therapist
Relationship Rescue: Ten Methods for Resolving Relationship Crises
Dealing with the Death of a Child
Generic Assignment Form

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